Much like with stand-up, in the bedroom, I had beginner's luck that gave me a false impression of my abilities. In college, I hooked up with a woman who lost her shit at my slightest touch. How could I not think I was truly the gangster of love? Alas, other women didn't experience complete particle reversal by simply having me blow in their ear. It got worse. Much worse.
Help! It turns out my wife can orgasm during sex — Just not with me
Dear Doc: Can't make my wife orgasm | Outlook | Jamaica Gleaner
Dear Prudence, I have been in a good marriage for more than a decade, and we have had what I consider to be a normal, loving sexual relationship. With one major exception—my wife has never achieved orgasm with me. She has always told me it is not a big deal to her, although we have certainly tried and it is something we have discussed repeatedly. A few nights ago, she accidentally let slip that she did achieve orgasm with her ex-husband. Upon further discussion it turns out it happened many times and very easily. Why did she never tell me before, given the number and intensity of our discussions on the issue? Am I such a wretched lover that I am hopeless?
It’s Time to Rethink the Way You Pleasure Your Wife
Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex.
I went down on my partner for a really long time last night, but she didn't have an orgasm. What's going on with that? Is it me? Is it her? The first thing to address is: How important is it to you to make her orgasm?